The interview revealed this in even more detail, particularly on the subject of learning styles, although it showed our attitudes are quite similar as the results of the Interview will demonstrate. The Initial topic I decided upon was early experiences contributing to personality, so that our conversation would progress In a roughly chronological order. The first defining event that occurred to Samaritan was the divorce of her parents when she was nine. The divorce was extremely traumatic as it was predicated by Cantata’s father carrying on a long term affair with her mother’s best friend.
Another influential experience included watching her stay at home mother operate a daycare ND study all night for a real estate exam so she could become self sufficient. She also recalled having a crush on her first grade teacher who kindly took her out to lunches and attended her birthday party. The result of these and other early experiences led Samaritan to develop a guarded, untrusting personality, particularly in family interactions, while at the same time leaving her open to finding affection outside her family with non-parental authority figures.
When asked to describe her personality in general, adjectives included musical, linguistic, detail oriented, social, Insecure, nurturing, and ‘take charge’. She associated some of these with these specific experiences, but believes that her musical and linguistic talents were inborn traits magnified by early exposure to books and a familial love of music. This explanation fits in very well with what I have learned about the theory of multiple intelligences (Gardner, 1983).
She believes her leadership, or as she calls it, ‘take charge’ quality stems from being the oldest child among three siblings and step-siblings, and having to be responsible for her chronically Irresponsible father. In addition to personality traits, Samaritan initially Identified her attitude, which she described as confident but somewhat reserved, and ‘positive beyond reason’, and added that she definitely self monitors her attitude on an ongoing and situational basis.
When asked how she monitored, she explained that after many years spent acting in local productions, self-monitoring was a natural habit for her, and had become essential in letting her adapt to the diverse situations she has encountered in her professional life. Although Samaritan was not familiar with the Myers Briggs test, we did discuss the general subject matter and Samaritan quickly placed her attitudes wealth the parameters of Introverted, sensing, and thinking; she was conflicted between feeling and judging and finally said ‘l walk the tightrope on that one’.
She does admit to experiencing difficulty in reconciling her expectation that life be structured with her desire to ‘live in the moment’ and notes this polarity mirrors the relationship between her overly unpredictable father and her excessively strict mother. My own canola Ana adolescence were also Teller Witt memorable experiences Tanat have shaped my personality. A few of the most memorable include the tragic death f my close first cousin when I was only six, a two month long family trip to Italy when I was nine, and a very embarrassing incident which occurred during summer camp in the year before I began high school.
The death in the family made me preoccupied with dying at the time, but today has shaped me into a person who has a very high regard for life and an interest in medicine. Being able to travel to Italy while I was young absolutely made me a more accepting, open person as I got to interact with people speaking a different language and having a completely different culture than my own. As for the camp experience, I will simply say that I am a more self-conscious person than I once was, which is probably a common reaction to adolescence.
I would have considered myself as a high-monitoring individual in high school, but take some pleasure in reporting I am now more consistent and less apt to change my appearance or attitude to suit others. My own attitudes fit fairly neatly into the categories of extroverted, sensing, feeling, and perceiving. After discussing our early experiences and resulting personality and attitudes I addressed the topic of attitude specifically determined by gender, ethnicity, and race.
Samaritan quickly recounted an experience she had as a new retail manager which resulted in a customer complaining that they were treated like a second class citizen told to ‘go to the back of the bus. ‘ Although Samaritan did not overtly intend any disrespect to the customer, she discovered on reflection that she had an implicit attitude regarding African Americans. In general we agreed that race and ethnicity are not a strong influence on our personalities, but conceded that was likely because we were in a privileged class of people: Caucasian, middle class, established Americans.
One exception which is common to both of us is a feeling of vulnerability due to our female gender. Samaritan was molested in her very early childhood and again in her freshman year of high school. I was fortunate not to have any such violent or sexual abuses in my past, but have definitely been afraid, as a woman, to enter predominantly male environments or to be alone in unfamiliar settings. However the extent to which this vulnerability has influenced our personalities is questionable as we both feel increasingly secure as women as we age.
Samaritan also considered her family background as Southern farmers, though not directly a unction of ethnicity, to be a contributing factor to her iron willed disposition and extremely high standards in her home and work life. Samaritan had very strong opinions and some criticisms of her own learning and study habits. She reported that she has always had a propensity to learn most quickly from written instructions and would often become quite confused if she had to rely on a physical demonstration.
She noted that she had a reading speed of about 500 words per minute which meant she could quickly absorb information, but also attributed her preference too lack of hand/eye coordination. She clearly had he more introverted style while I gravitate towards extroverted. As for myself, I am fairly comfortable learning from both a demonstration and a textbook, although I prefer a hands on approach because I feel more engaged with the material. We then discussed our individual study habits and preferred study environment.
I enjoy some background noise such as music while I study; Samaritan also prefers a noisy environment out notes seen actually accomplishes more In ten solute quilt AT a library or similar setting. Questions about study habits and learning styles naturally flowed into a discussion of motivation. We both agreed that the type of motivation most important to us varied depending on the situation. For instance, I recently completed an Algebra course, and prior to that an American Politics course.
The American Politics was a much more enjoyable topic for me, and so my intrinsic motivation to expand and then expound upon my knowledge outweighed my desire to receive a good grade. However, in terms of which type of motivation results in better performance, Samaritan and I had contradictory responses. Samaritan related that because she was highly sensitive to other’s opinions, she performed best when extrinsically motivated. She confided that the extrinsic rewards such as raises, promotions, and accolades from her employer provided a great source of validation for her.
I find that I perform best when intrinsically motivated because as a rule I am a curious person who is willing to seek knowledge for its’ own sake, when not hampered by external limits. This has been a valuable trait in my education while Samaritan attributes many of her successes to her orientation towards extrinsic achievements. “We continue to shape our personalities all our lives. If we knew ourselves perfectly, we should die. ” (Camas, 1937) This observation, by the quintessential French writer, Albert Camas, is an excellent summation of my results.